Do not Let It Hurt You

You know I have never really understood why it is that some people actually get pissed at other people for personal choices they make and it happens a lot. For that matter it happened to me. Mind you it was not in a disrespectful manner. But It can be rather annoying. Especially when they act like you have hurt them so bad, even though at the end of the day your personal choices, especially when it comes to hair, does not affect them in one way or another.

I will not disclose the name of the person or where it happened. For I have no intention of trying to make the person feel bad or scolding them publicly. I am just expressing my annoyance with a common occurrence and I can feel safe in saying that I speak for many persons when I rant about this.

So I had my natural lose hair and this person apparently liked the styles that they would see me with and told me on several occasions that it looks very nice and I would tell them it is time consuming, but I love it, etc. etc. Now this person sees me one day after I had started my locs and starts touching my hair with a distressed face exclaiming "what have you done with your hair?, I am trying to understand it" and I simply rid them of their confusion by letting them know about my decision to lock my tresses. Then the person gets a even more distressed face(surprised it was possible) and asked me why I would do that with such pretty hair.....

Am I to assume that hair locking is just done by people who have ugly hair and would only be able to achieve decent styling through locs? I think not! In fact, with the knowledge I have acquired over the last 3 years about natural hair I know that is not true. But a lot of people tend to have this impression. Which means they are ignorant about ethnic hair, which whether you believe it or not can look good with the right hands and knowledge to back it.

I did not make the decision to lock my hair because I want to have better looking hair. My hair was fine in it's natural state. But dreadlocks,sisterlocks and locs are styles I have always admired and thought of starting, also I had tried to start them before. It is just something I had always been inclined to do and I have decided to go for them again. No one should let this decision of mine be the cause of their pain, cause I feel none and in truth neither should anyone else. After all it is my hair. Just saying.